Paris Campbell Grace the internet comedian, singer, and wife of Against Me!’s Laura Jane Grace has taken to social media to publicly accuse Laura of emotional abuse and controlling behavior, sharing a detailed account of their relationship along with text exchanges and personal experiences. In the posts, Paris claims that Laura has refused to leave their shared home and has created a fearful and unstable environment.

In a series of Instagram stories, Paris writes:

“This is another example this week of my wife using her massive platform to attempt to hurt me. I am currently locked in my office with all my belongings, and actually really scared. I don't know what to do here, and I have nobody to turn to. She has thousands of people who love her, and it’s a great inequality of power. She’s been yelling at me since we woke up, I have remained calm (although admit I have cried a bunch after) and begged her to please be kind to me and try to have a good day.”

Laura Jane Grace appeared to respond on her own social accounts with a short statement:

“I feel unsafe.”

Paris continued to share allegations and context, noting that the two had been working closely together on Laura’s solo album Adventure Club, which coincidentally released today:

“We are a day away from a major album release. Our first collaboration together. But I am not being treated with kindness. Everything from my past of having to turn to SW, to my alarm going off too much has been setting Laura Jane to a place of sheer irrational rage towards me daily. I am trying my best here, but I FEEL unsafe. Laura Jane is perfectly safe, upstairs, tearing the house apart as I type this.”

“I am the one unsafe in this situation, I am publicly asking my wife to please stop this and leave the home.”

“What is happening to me is very real. I love my wife dearly, but I believe she needs serious help. I have countless times begged for us to go to counseling, to which she often blows up at me over even the suggestion. On the few times she’s halfway agreed, it leads nowhere. I have no options than to publicly state what’s happening to me because I don’t have a personal support network, everyone in my life is there for/because of my wife. I feel very alone...”

Paris explained the origins of their relationship, stating that Laura had found her online. At the time, Paris had just recovered from losing everything in a fire, was working in sex work (SW) and had an OnlyFans account, which she alleges has since been used against her in the relationship:

“Laura Jane met me when I was just on my feet from losing everything I owned to a fire. I was a struggling artist/comic/whatever who had a substantial social following, but was secretly making ends meet doing SW (and OF) for a brief time before we met. This led to assault and being trafficked. I got out, but endured a lot of trauma. When I met my wife, one of the first things I confided in her were my experiences. She made me feel so safe, and told me I’d never feel judged by her.”

“My wife found me on social media, I asked her out, within two months we went full force together into a life and marriage. She invited me into these creative projects, and I became a full time member of her touring bands and began recording and writing with her. This was never the original plan, but I was thrilled to be finding my way back to music in a natural way with someone I love. It was all organic, and beautiful...”

But Paris alleges that things quickly changed:

“Rapidly, things shifted. More and more, my wife seemingly started to become resentful towards me for multiple things, but primarily my short-lived experience as a SWer. My wife has found a way to tie it into everything. This threw me… HARD. I couldn’t understand, and still don’t understand, why suddenly for the last OVER A YEAR I find myself daily getting my trauma thrown in my face…”
“Everything from her scouring the internet for any remains she can find of my deleted OF leaks, or telling me she spends time watching massage parlor porn out of ‘concern’ she will see me in one of the videos, or her saying her telling me her findings of videos of me I have explained are non-consensual in their distribution—to throw in my face moments before sound check on a show day, I COULD GO ON FOREVER...”

“I feel used. Which is crazy, because that’s what my wife tells me every day, that I’m an ‘asshole narcissist,’ that I’m ‘in cahoots with’ this person or that to execute a ‘secret plan’ in which I take all her money, it’s endless. Our relationship has become a revolving door of my wife yelling at me while I cry, then hours later coming around with only the words...”

“‘wanna fuck?’ And THAT is the only tenderness I am shown. I feel like an object. Then every night, I get on stage and I sing and try has hard as I can to do a good job, sometimes while she throws death stares at me during words like ‘as if it were an obligation’ during Black Me Out, or sometimes she won’t look at me at all to make me feel disconnected...”

“I sound crazy saying these things because IT IS crazy, but it is also the fucking truth. I am not a bad person, I love love love this woman, but I don’t deserve any of this shit!! I feel invisible, I feel like nobody will believe me, and I know it’s not right. I feel like I’m living in a dystopian nightmare, everyone every day telling me how much this woman loves me...”

“while on the daily she tells me she hates me, wants me gone, but if I try to leave that’s an issue too!! I am not okay!!!!!”

Paris then posted to Threads, sharing screenshots of messages between the two and reiterating her call for Laura to leave the shared space so Paris can have a safe environment for herself and her child:

“This has been my only communication with my wife since yesterday morning with the exception of logistical questions communicated through others, or her arguing at me from the 2nd floor. I am once again, as someone who has been continuously abused in this marriage, asking my wife to leave the home and allow me to have a safe space to spend time with my child.”

Laura responded :

“In the year and a half I have been with you I think you have maybe had your kid a total of 3 months? And when you do have them you throw them in daycare from 8–5PM every day while you smoke weed and look at TikTok. Last time I left and filed for divorce you went and stayed at a fancy air b&b in Indiana. I have a kid that lives in this house too. You leave.”

A follower replied to Paris’s thread, accusing Laura of manipulation:

“‘I don’t feel safe leaving my belongings?’ So she never felt ‘unsafe’—she’s just trying to smear you as a grifter. Wow... considering she uses you across her social media. This is so messed up and I’m sorry you have to experience this kind of abuse.”

Paris responded:

“Yeah this all boils down to how she’s never trusted me even tho she promised she did. I know I sound pathetic, but imagine living in a house with someone and afraid to go upstairs cause that’s all their stuff, and then every time they get mad at you they run away with all their shit like you’re some thief when you’ve never even asked for anything. That and ‘if it weren’t for me, you’d go back to being a whore.’ Like… that’s why I’m doing this, it’s real fucked up shit, and it's constant."

The whole story continues to unfold in real time as this is all going down right now online.